The First Thing To Do In The Morning

Starting your day right can make a difference in how the rest of your day goes. Having good habits makes it easier to get more accomplished and leads to a happier life.35788676_m

Charles Duhig said in his book “The Power of Habit”, making your bed is a keystone behavior which is something that starts other good habits. He said “making your bed every morning is correlated with better productivity, a greater sense of well-being and stronger skills at sticking with a budget.”

Admiral William McRaven gave a commencement speech at the University of Texas in 2014. He stated that every morning in basic SEAL training his instructors would show up in the barracks room and the first thing they would do is inspect the bed.  If you did it right, the corners would be square, the covers pulled tight, the pillow centered under the headboard and his extra blanket would be folded at the end of the rack. He went on to say “It was a simple task–mundane at best. But every morning we were required to make our bed to perfection.  It seemed a little ridiculous at the time, particularly in light of the fact that we were aspiring to be real warriors, tough battle-hardened SEALS, but the wisdom of this simple act has proven to me many times over.”

Making your bed in the morning is the first task you complete for the day and it gives you an accomplishment to start the day. By doing this first task it puts you on the path for the day to accomplish more tasks during the day.

As Admiral McRaven says, “If you can’t get the little things right, you will never get the big things right. If you want to change the world, start off by making your bed.”

Your action plan for tomorrow is to start the day by making your bed.  Many people have said that starting the day by making their bed has changed their lives.

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7 Great Ways to be Grateful and Share It

November is the month we celebrate Thanksgiving in the United States. Thanksgiving means the expression of gratitude, especially to God.43256425_s

This is a great month for expressing your gratitude towards others. Here is a short list of those you can express your gratitude: Your spouse, significant other, people you work with, a mentor, friends, Pastors, Priests, Rabbis, parents, relatives, neighbors, children and God.

Here are 7 ways to express your gratitude towards others:

1) Handwritten Note or Letter. We seem to have gotten away from handwritten notes and letters with the advent of the computer. One thing I have noticed is that people keep handwritten notes and letters. They usually delete electronic notes.

2) Send a Greeting Card. There is just something about getting something snail mail these days.  We are used to getting a bunch of junk mail. The person you send this to will enjoy getting something different in the mail and you will probably make their day.

3) Text or Email. Sometimes just a quick text or email to someone saying you were thinking about them and are thankful for them is a pick me up. 

4) Make a Video or send a picture. Today it is so easy to shoot a quick video on your phone and send it. The other idea is to find a picture of a special time with that person and send it to them with a note.

5) Post on Social Media. Post a quick message letting them know you are grateful for something they did for you.

6) Record an audio message or voice mail. This is easy to do today  with a variety of apps. Record a quick message and make their day. You could even go old school and record the message on a CD.

7) Send Flowers. There used to be a commercial that said “say it with flowers”. Flowers tend to brighten up a room and touch women’s hearts.

Bonus: At Thanksgiving Dinner go around the table and say what and whom you are especially thankful for this year and why.

Have fun sharing your gratitude this month.

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Lessons from the MLB Playoffs

October is Rocktober at our house. Rocktober is a special time of the year. Fall is in the air. College football is in season. More importantly it is Playoff and World Series time for Major League Baseball.Gordon HR World Series

Sports can teach you a lot about life. This season I have witnessed several life lessons during the MLB playoffs.

Lesson 1: Never Give Up

The Kansas City Royals were down 2 games to 1 going in to Game 4 of their series with the Houston Astos.

The defending AL champions saved their season. They rallied for five runs in the eighth inning to beat Houston 9-6, forcing their playoff series to a decisive Game 5. We all know what happened in Game 5.

First baseman Eric Hosmer said,”We always feel that we’re still in games, and we still have a chance. That’s the mentality for this whole entire team. It’s never quit, and the character we showed today. That’s what a championship ballclub does.”

The game is not over until after the bottom of the last inning. There can be 2 outs bottom of the 9th down by 5 and you still have an opportunity to tie and send the game to extra innings or better yet win the game.

Lesson 2: Hire Great Leaders and Surround Yourself with the Best

The Chicago Cubs did a fantastic job of hiring great baseball leaders. They hired Theo Eptein as President of Baseball Operations and Joe Maddon as their manager. These were great hires. Theo and Joe are two of the best in the game. They also brought in veteran pitcher Jon Lester to provide the young pitching staff with an experienced veteran who has been in the World Series.

They changed the team from the top. The results speak for themselves. The Cubs finished in last place in the National League Central Division in 2014. They finished 17 games back.

In 2015 they finished 3 games back and earned a Wildcard to the playoffs. This is a dramatic turnaround in one year.

If you want a great team you need to have great leaders. Speed of the leader, speed of the team.

Lesson 3: The Highest Payroll Does Not Guarantee Results

If the top payrolls were the ticket to the World Series, the Dodgers would be playing the Yankees. The Top 4 MLB payrolls in 2015 are:

1. Los Angeles Dodgers $272,789,040

2. New York Yankees $219,282,196

3. Boston Red Sox $187,407,202

4. Detroit Tigers $173,813,750

The two teams in the World Series are not even in the top 15. The Mets are #21 and the Royals are #16 on the total payroll list.

Having the highest paid teams and individuals doesn’t necessarily mean you will get the best results.

Lesson 4: Prepare for the Unexpected and Be Flexible

The St. Louis Cardinals essentially had 5 of the 9 players that started the regular season injured at year end. They still finished with the best record in baseball with a .617 winning percentage.

You have to prepare for health issues, injuries and life issues. You also have to carry on even when the team is not at full speed. You have to be flexible and use your resources.

Lesson 5: The Best Team Does Not Always Win

The St. Louis Cardinals had the best record in baseball in 2015, yet they did not make it to the World Series. They won over 100 games this year.

You can have a great team and win the most games, but still not win championships. You have to get hot when the victories count.

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How to Get More Done in a Shorter Time

Have you ever wondered why some people get so much more done than others in a day? Why is that?28259640_s

There are a lot of reasons. Some people are naturally gifted at this skill of prioritizing their time. Others have learned how to be more effective with their daily tasks.

There are some skills that you can learn to help you get more done each day. Here are some tactics:

1. Take care of yourself first

  • Exercise for at least 20 – 30 minutes per day. Exercise is one of the key factors in giving you the energy you need. Many people work out first thing in the morning to start the day alert and ready to go.  Some men work out during lunch to give them energy for the rest of the day.
  • Sleep 7 – 9 hours. Sleep is key to being productive. The most productive people get 7 – 9 hours of sleep per night. Test this to see what works best for you. There are those that brag about how little sleep they get. Sure you can do this for periods of time, but eventually you are going to get sick or suffer burnout symptoms.
  •  Power naps. Many highly productive people take naps during the day to stay fresh. These are 10 -20 minute power naps. This will be dependent on your work environment. Some large companies actually have nap areas or rooms.  If you can’t do this at work, you may want to experiment with it on weekends.
  • Eat Well. Eat protein in the morning and as the day goes on add carbohydrates. Food consumption will depend on how many calories you burn during the day. Don’t have a huge carbohydrate load at lunch time. This will leave you feeling sluggish.
  • Stay Hydrated. Drink plenty of water during the day.

2. Plan the day.

  •  Take time in the morning or evening before to plan your day. Take the time your prefer, either at the end of your work day or in the morning before you get started, to plan the work day and list out what you want to accomplish for the day.
  • Rank you list. Rank the things you want to get done during the day from most important to least important.
  • Schedule harder tasks first when fresh. Take your list and take the hardest task and get it done first.
  •   Take Scheduled Breaks. Schedule breaks into your day. You should take a 5 – 10 minute break every 30 – 40 minutes.
  •   Get away from the office for a break. Take 30 – 60 minutes to get away and have a break away from the office between 11 a.m. and 2 p.m. depending on what works best for your schedule and work cycles. If nothing else just go for a walk to get some exercise and fresh air.

3. Stay focused

  •  Use a timer. Use a timer to remind you to take breaks. Most cell phones have timers on them.
  •  Turn off email and instant message reminders. The pop ups are distracting and will make you want to go off task and answer them.
  •   Do not answer the phone and emails when you get them. Do not start the day by answering email. Block time increments of 15 – 30 minutes in the morning and afternoon to answer emails and your phone.
  •   One time as many emails as possible. Trash the ones you just read and don’t need. Set an offline folder for the ones you can read later. Take action and return the ones that are important. Delegate emails that can be answered by another team member.
  •  Block Time for Social Media. Block 20 – 30 minutes to read social media and do posts.
  • Take Scheduled Breaks every 30 – 45 minutes. Use your timer to not miss these.
  •  Keep a notebook and pen by you to prevent yourself from multi-tasking. As you get ideas or things you want to do jot them down so you can do them later.

4. Delegate

  • Determine the value of your time. Take your annual pay and divide it by 2080. This will give you your hourly value based on a 40 hour work week. When you are going to do a task determine if it is worth it for you to do the task or to delegate it.
  • Delegate the tasks to an assistant or team member that can do the task for you. If you are fortunate enough to have someone you can delegate to then make sure you are using that person’s skills effectively. Delegation can be hard because many highly efficient people usually like control. Delegation to a qualified team member will help you to get more done during the day. The sooner you learn that the sooner you will become more productive.
  • Hire a virtual assistant. In today’s world of technology many people are using virtual assistants to help them be more productive.

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Tips on How to Allocate Your Paycheck

The best rule I have for allocating your paycheck is the 70-10-10-10 rule. I came up with this rule years ago after reading the excellent book The Richest Man in Babylon by George S. Clason. This book is a classic fable that gives the timeless rules for money management.

33777928_mThere are several other great resources: Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey and Money Master the Game:7 Simple steps to Financial Freedom by Tony Robbins.

The 70-10-10-10 Rule

  • The first 10% goes in a charity account. The funds in this account are disbursed at 5% to your church and the other 5% goes to charities that you are passionate about. I have found over the years that if you follow this rule you will get back much more than you give.
  • 70% goes for living expenses. Use these funds to pay your monthly living expenses. Pay credit cards off monthly and strive to keep your debt minimal.
  • 10% goes to savings and investment. The first step is to have 3 months of living expenses saved in a money market account or savings account. Max out your 401k. Any additional funds should be invested as you and your financial planner see fit based on your risk.
  • 10% goes to investing in yourself and/or business. These are funds to invest in your learning and education. These funds are for books, workshops, seminars and business retreats. They can also be used for side businesses.

A good plan is to meet with a financial advisor to help you to meet your financial goals. A good financial advisor can help you with wealth strategies, insurance strategies and tax strategies to help you to maximize your financial future. You should meet with your planner at least annually to discuss strategies and update your plan.

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How to Make Your Marriage More Successful

Are you trying at your marriage or are you committed in your marriage? Those that “try” at anything are usually not committed. They will stay with something until it gets hard. Committed means you do what ever it takes to make something work.  Those that commit generally succeed, while those that try will generally fail.

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A deep level of commitment in a marriage can lead to a lower divorce rate. According to Thomas Bradbury, Benjamin Karney and Dominik Schoebi from the Relationship Institute at UCLA couples that both people were willing to make sacrifices for the sake of the marriage were significantly more likely to have lasting and happy marriages. Of the  172 couples in the study, 78.5% were still married after 11 years and 21.5% were divorced.  This is significantly better than the average divorce rate.

Ways to make your marriage more successful:

  • Compromise.  Good marriages are not based on I win or you win.  It is not a winning or losing proposition. Commit to the relationship rather than committing to your own immediate needs and agenda. Sometimes you need to sacrifice your needs and wants.
  • Communicate. When you don’t see things eye to eye talk to your spouse. There is a good chance that your spouse can not read your mind.
  • Pray together and for each other.  Pray for strength and unity in your marriage. Pray for others and their needs on a daily basis. Men, here is a prayer for your wife.
  • Commit with actions. Let your actions reflect your commitment. Make yourself available when your spouse wants to talk. Spend time alone with your spouse. Laugh together. Have date moments. Plan for your future together.
  • Commit with words. Tell your spouse that you are committed to your marriage for the rest of your life. Tell your spouse you love them in front of your kids. Let your kids know that you and your spouse are committed to each other through thick and thin. This will put your kids at ease. They see a lot of divorce through their friends.
  • Learn your spouse’s Love Language.  There are only 5 to learn. Here is a post I did on The Language of Love.
  • Be Grateful for your spouse. What are you thankful for? Ask God to bring these things to mind. Make a list and review it often.
  • Do a check up. Ask your spouse how you are doing for him or her every 6 months. Ask what you can do to improve the relationship. 
  • Model other couples that have successful marriages. Ask a couple that has been successfully married a long time to mentor you.
  •  Renew your wedding vows every 5 – 10 years. Recommit to each other. My wife and I did this the last time, in Cana, for our 25th wedding anniversary.

These are just a few ideas to make a marriage more successful. Please feel free to share this with others.

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What is the best exercise for you?

If I were to pick one exercise to stay fit it would be walking. Walking is an exercise that almost anyone can do.

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The major benefits of walking are:

1. It helps to maintain weight.Walking will burn calories. The number of calories you burn will depend on the pace and distance of your walk.

2. Reduces the risk of coronary heart disease. According to the American Heart Association walking improves your circulation and will aid in reducing heart disease.

3. Reduces the risk of non-insulin dependent type 2 diabetes. This is  also according to the American Heart Association.

4. It supports your joints and reduces the risk of osteoporosis.  A Brigham and Women’s Hospital, Boston, study of post-menopausal women found that 30 minutes of walking each day reduced their risk of hip fractures by 40 percent.

5. It aids in digestion. According to a study  in 2008 by German researchers walking aided digestion.  Walking, they found, sped the rate at which food moved through the stomach.

6. It aids in your thinking. Walking allows you to clear your mind and think. You will get the benefit of natural endorphins being released in your body. This also improves your mood.

7. Improves your balance and coordination. This will naturally improve by adding walking on different paths and surfaces.

Walking is a great way to get started with an exercise program. If you are just starting to exercise the first thing to do is get a check up from your doctor.  This is a great thing to do annually.

There is very little equipment required to walk.  I would recommend a good pair of walking shoes to avoid foot injury. Good shoes will help you with rolling from your heel to your toe.

You can measure your distance with a pedometer or other device that measures your steps and distance. The iPhone as an example has the health app that will measure your distance.

Start out with a short walk around the block. Add distance to your walk every time you walk until you can get to at least the 30 minute mark.

Walking is great because you can do it anywhere. If you live around lakes, oceans or mountains you can plan walks to enjoy the beauty of the outdoors.

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How To Not Lose An Idea

7 Ways to Record Your Ideas

Have you ever had a great idea and later when you are trying to figure out what that great idea was you have forgot the idea? I think this has happened to everyone at some time or another.

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Here are 7 ways to record your ideas so you don’t forget them:

  1. Record your ideas in a journal. Set aside time to think every day. Pick a time of day that works best for you. Record your thoughts and ideas in the Idea Journal. You can record on a paper or electronic journal.
  2. Carry a small pad of paper and pen or pencil. A small notebook like a Moleskin or a spiral notebook is perfect for this. There is even an app for Moleskin so you can use your phone or tablet.
  3. Use the voice memos app on your iPhone or Android phone. Most cells phones have a voice recording app. A nice option if you use Dropbox and want to share your messages is to use DropVox. This is a recording tool that will drop your message right in to DropBox.
  4. Carry a small voice recorder. I have used a small voice recorder like the one in the picture above for years. I have it in my car so as I am driving I can just hit the record button to capture thoughts, ideas and to dos.
  5. Call yourself and leave a voice mail. This is a trick I learned a long time ago. If you have an idea while you are away from your office  call yourself on your cell or office phone and leave a message.
  6. Use notes on your phone. Most cell phones have some sort of messaging app or notes app that you can record notes.
  7.  Text or email yourself. Many cell phones have voice texting.  Most vehicles have the capabilty to do voice texting as well when they are in sync with your phone. An email provides you with a written record.

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How to Put Discipline in Your Life

We all want to do so many things in our lives, but we are limited by time. How we schedule our day and discipline ourselves has a big impact on whether we accomplish what we set out to do each day.

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Self discipline is hard and is something you can train yourself to get better at. Much of it is sticking to your plan and not letting others or your own self talk convince you to not get done what you want to get accomplished.

6 Areas to Commit Time and Create More Discipline

  • Faith – Commit time to prayer and go to church. Set aside time each day to pray. How many minutes/hours would you like to pray each day?  I have found early mornings and night time work best for me. Figure out your best prayer time. Don’t skip church because you want to sleep in or have other things to do on Sunday. Plan on which mass or service you attend each week.
  • Fitness – Commit time to workout. How many times per week do you want to workout? How long do you want your workouts to be? What kind of workouts do you want to do? Start with an easy workout just a few minutes per day and work your way up to longer and harder workouts.
  • Friends – Commit to spending time with friends. How often do you want to spend time with friends? Who do you want to spend time with? Set a goal of how many times per week or month you want to spend with your friends.
  • Finances – Commit time to working on your finances. The easiest thing to do is set your monthly bills on autopay. Set up your investments with monthly deductions. Most employers offer a 401k plan. This is an easy way to set aside monies for retirement and comes out of your pay pretax. Review your investment statements monthly.  Set up a quarterly and  an annual review with a financial planner.
  • Family – Commit time to your spouse and children. Plan to spend time with your family each day. Have family dinners.  Have date time or date moments with your spouse. Take time to talk to your kids and play with them.
  • Fun – Commit time to doing something fun. Get vacation and fun time planned and put in your calendar. Where would you like to go on vacation? What weekend trips would you like to go on? What fun things have you not done in a while that you would like to do?

After answering these questions for each category pull out your calendar. Block time in your calendar for each of these 6 areas. Tell your spouse or a friend what you have scheduled and what your goals are. You will have a greater chance of hitting them if you have accountability to someone other than yourself.

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How to Read More Books Every Year

I love to read and to learn. I generally read between 24 – 40 books per year. I skim or reads chapters of another 50+ books per year.

I usually read books based on recommendations. The recommendation may come from a friend, business associate, priest, blog or business magazine. I have found I don’t want to waste time reading something that may not be good.

 

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Reading for learning. When I read to learn I choose nonfiction books. They are usually business related or based on a certain topic to learn about. Here is how to read a nonfiction book.

  • Read the cover flap and about author. This gives a good synopsis of the book and you learn about what other books the author has written.
  • Skip the endorsements.
  • Review the table of contents to see what topics interest you.
  • Read the 1st and last chapter first. You can learn about most of the book in these two chapters.
  • Go back and read the chapters on the topics you want to learn or interest you.
  • You do not have to read the whole book. Read only what you want to read.

Reading for Entertainment.

Fiction books are great for entertainment and to escape. Pick a genre that interests you and find authors that are good in that genre. If don’t like the book stop reading it and pick a different book. There are so many books available that there is no need to finish a book you don’t enjoy just to say you finished it.

There are fiction books that have great research and historical information. You can learn as you read.

Listening to Books.

Some people don’t like to read books. I highly recommend Audible.com for those of you who do not like to read books.  It is also a great way to get more books read in a year. You can listen while you are traveling or while working out.

Paper books versus ebooks

  • It is easy to get to different parts of the book
  • You can mark the book up and write in the margins
  • There is just something about having the book with turnable pages in your hands

Ebooks versus paper books

  • You never loose your place in an ebook. The book automatically syncs on your device
  • You can use multiple devices to read a book like a Ipad, Iphone or Android device. The book syncs across your devices
  • With ebooks you save space. When traveling you can take multiple ebooks to read without the space a paper copy takes.
  • If you have books on Audible.com and on Kindle Reader you can use Whispersync. This is a really cool function. If you are listening to a book it will automatically sync with the book you are reading on your Kindle app and vice versa.

Create a reading program.

  • Set a goal to read 1 chapter or set a time frame to read per day. An example would be to read 15 minutes per day.
  • Create a book list of books on subjects you would like to learn
  • Read several books at a time to have variety in what you can choose to read. I tend to read 4 -5 books at a time so I have choices on what I feel like reading.

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